You wanna know the only thing that bothers me about this? You keep saying "she" bought it, like you were not involved... Please say you BOTH made this decision as a married couple /wwwthreads_images/icons/shocked.gif

Congrats on a good purchase anyway /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

 

This is the "YukonChick"! I could not help but notice the last post from DRM. My husband has always been right about ONE thing, I control all the money and the PU$$Y. I drive what I want. I don't think he was to thrilled about my choice but what the hell he has a towbeast. Hey, I kinda like this BBS stuff........ yours truly the "Yukonchick"

I may not like what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it.
Semper Jeep

 

my wife has a had a 4door tahoe for a few years now and she loves it! I must say its nice to travel in too!

I concur that women are superior by the way!

youve got half the money and all the noogy, but with all the noogy its just a matter of time until yall have all the money!



OzarkJeep

"I cant wait on a compromise, Id rather loose on my own."

 

Glad to hear you like marriage that way... I sure wouldn't, and neither would my wife /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

Enjoy the Yukon /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

 

WHAT??? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN???THE JEEPCHICKS ARE NOW IN CHARGE OF THE POON??? Ill have to look into this at once! I mean, sure they care for it and keep it groomed untill its beckoned for,...but in charge of it! Hmmmm,..No,..I dont think thats such a good idea.


Jeff
89 Wrangler
I take my Jeep "On the Rocks",usually "With a Splash of Addrenalin"

 

I'm with you on that one Jeff... Hey, I share, why can't they? hehe...

1993 Wrangler 4.0/5spd, all stock...but not for long!!!!

 

um.... who sez yukonchick isn't sharing..!.
hahahahahha... good thing I'm going to tellico for a week to get away!!!lololol

~~Elusive~~
tj-7..tellico tested, uwharrie safaried, /wwwthreads_images/icons/tongue.gif..see it at http://www.jeepgod.net
oh yeah, and a 2000 tj, 4.0, dana 44, nv3550

 

So, DRM, everytime you purchase a piece of candy you bring in the family for a conference? Being in the Marine Corps, I deploy alot. Yukonchick must be able to make big decisions on her own. I totally trust her to make the right one. She didn't seem to mind when I told her in 1997 that I was trading the YJ for an XJ. She didn't even care when I wanted to get another YJ in 1999. And then when I told her this past June that I was going to drop $22000 on a 2000 TJ it was no problem. You see, we can act independently of each other. Must be a new concept. Besides, I don't want to be in a marriage where we can't make our own informed decisions. If you can't trust your ol'lady to make big decisions without you, I guess it's time to trade her in on a newer model.

I may not like what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it.
Semper Jeep

 

No, I do not have a conference for every piece of candy purchased - that is quite a silly statement, don't you think?

You can rationalize all you want - when a spouse (be that the man or woman) makes a multi thousand dollar purchase without the consent of the other one, they are not being a married COUPLE. You can argue all you want, but God and the Bible said you are to act as ONE with good reason /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif. If you don't like the Biblical take on that, any marriage counselor or one who has studied relationships will agree - it is a sign of a problem in the union.

But hey, it's your marriage, your life - not mine /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif LIke I said - enjoy the new tow rig /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

BTW, I don't believe in "trading them in on a newer model" /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif And we do try to make decisions as ONE /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

 

DRM-
You just don't get the idea.
My wife bought her last two vehicles on her own and I wouldn't have it any other way. She is more proud and responsable for them and they get better care.
I did drop a hint last time and she really likes her GC.
Plus there is no one (me) to complain to about them.
Maybe this type of arrangement comes only with more 'mature' relationships?
The best part came when we signed up for last year's Canyon De Chelly Jeep Jamboree and I insisted she do all the driving while I enjoyed the scenery.
This gave her a lot of confidence in her new rig and I hope the experince may help her get out of a tight spot some day.
Also, it's a two way street. I wouldn't want her dictating to me on what I drive! /wwwthreads_images/icons/shocked.gif

JAF
http://www.monsterslayer.com/jeep

 

Just be sure that when you trade, you dont trade down. I say hang on until she's 40 and then trade her in for two 20s /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

Restoring a '74 DJ-5C /wwwthreads_images/icons/cool.gif Its missing the alternator. At first the Ammeter gauge just didn't work but now its missing an alternator /wwwthreads_images/icons/crazy.gif

 

Jaffer - you don't get the idea, and no, this is not a sign of a "mature" relationship /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

I never said to "dictate" to one another what you can and cannot buy - so no need to put words in my mouth. It is about having enough love and respect to not make large purchases in a union without the consent of the other party. And that does not mean the other party has to agree 100% either - but when this attitude is taken, everyone gives a little. The spouse that "wants" has a check on their wants to help keep them realistic (i.e. not spending more than they should, or doing something not financially responsible for the family) and the spouse being consulted should realize that their spouse's "wants" are not always exactly their own, and should give some even if they are not in 100% favor of the purchase (again, barring a blatantly irresponsible action).

Like I said, check with the "experts", The Bible (my favorite), anywhere you want... This is not my opinion, it is fact.

 

Well I have to tell you, my wife makes all dicisions when it comes to money. She gives me a weekly allowance, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I realized that I couldn't save a dime. And I wouldn't be where I am today without her. I wouldn't own my house, I wouldn't be as financially stable as I am. Even though I make all the money, I have absolutely no problems getting her permission so to speak to make larger perchases.

Keith

ITS GOOD ENOUGH /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

 

Hey clown, who said that she made it without my consent. I do believe that my wife said that I wasn't to thrilled about the purchase. If you would have paid attention a couple of weeks ago when I first put this on the BBS about the wife wanting a Yukon you would have seen that I was half-assed behind her on it.

As far as "a problem in our union", we have "only" been married for four years and have yet to have an argument or major disagreement.

And don't bring your religion in on me. I don't preach my atheism to you, so you don't preach your Godliness to me!/wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif BTW, Yukonchick is a Catholic. What a match we are.

Also, I'm in the same boat as ricochet. The wife does control all the money. I like it that way too. I'm the kind that if I have money in my pocket and I see something that I want I'll get it. She's not like that at all. She's thrifty. Kinda hard to say that after she just spent $19000.

I may not like what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it.
Semper Jeep

 

Keith - you just agreed with me /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

You and your wife came to a mutual decision that she was best at handling the money - and you work TOGETHER on your finances /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

 

Hey InfantrYJ - grow up...

I didn't "bring my religion on you" - so get some backbone and realize I offered it as one of several sources for my FACTS. You atheistic people are so anal about hearing God or the Bible mentioned that you freak out... I can see your belief system offers little security and peace when you can't handle someone else's beliefs - sure make me wonder why you follow that belief /wwwthreads_images/icons/crazy.gif

And get your story straight - if you weren't too thrilled about her buying it, that means you did not want here to buy it. So if you did not agree to it beforehand, she did it without your "consent". How hard is that to understand?

Anyway - before you start bashing me because it rocks your boat - check the FACTS. Do a little research on relationships and marriage then come back and disagree if you still feel that way - or is that too much to ask? /wwwthreads_images/icons/tongue.gif

 

I'm going on 25 years on the current arrangment (marrage). My first and only.
My sweetie controlls all the dough.
Many agree this is best as a good controll over boys and their toys.
Tell me about how much trouble I'm in for after you hit your 25th, DRM.
My philisophy is "what ever works".
Frankly, I was tickled pink when my wife went car shopping alone, did her homework, negociated a good price and loan THEN told me about it AFTER she bought her first one about 10 years ago.
TRUST and room to breath are also major building blocks of a solid marrige, IMHO.
All that cozyness is all well and good ... for some ... it tends to stiffle others ...
I rather enjoy being with someone with a little more independance.

JAF
http://www.monsterslayer.com/jeep

 

Jaffer, there you go agreeing with me again /wwwthreads_images/icons/tongue.gif

Would she have bought the car if she knew you and her were not in agreement on that purchse? You didn't have to "ok" the specific vehicle, just agree on the course of action /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

And I will be glad to get back with you afer 25 years, and 50 years, and 75 years together /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

I dated my wife all through high school for 8 years and we are on our second year of marriage and have a baby on the way.

As anyone will tell you - the key to marriage falls in these 3 rules:

1. Communication
2. Communication
3. COMMUNICATION!

Any other comments you want to post that are in full agreement with what I am saying - feel free /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif/wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

 

Hey DRM, I'm not agreeing with anyone, I just stated my position. Oh sure, It would be great not hearing her mouth everytime I spend 2 cents on my jeep, but if she didn't we would be broke. But then again, she wouldn't go out and buy a car without talking it over with me. She knows absolutely nothing about cars, and she isn't that good at negotiating with sales people. But if she were, by all means, I wish she would. We realize that this is a partnership. I maybe able to make better dicisions on certain things, and she is better at others. We usually make our own decisions, but not when it comes to my jeep. She has the last word . That is the one thing I wish we had in common, off-roading. She just doesn't like it and doesn't understand about upgrading anything. Oh well, given all her positive qualities, I can certainly live with 1 negative one. Now i'm rambling.

Keith

ITS GOOD ENOUGH /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

 

Talk about growing up. You can't or won't accept the simple fact that a wife or spouse can make a big decision on their own. As for being not too thrilled about her decision to purchase a vehicle that she wanted is not saying that she purchased it without my consent. It just says that I was not too thrilled about the purchase, that's it. Does everything have to be a comprimise? Since when does an American woman need permission or "consent" to get anything. After all she is an adult and she does have a brain to weigh out the pros and cons. Hell, for all I care she can go out and get another $19000 vehicle without my "consent", she handles the finances and knows what we can afford.

As for the communication thing, my wife and I must be pros, as I said in an earlier reply four years and not a single argument nor major disagreement. We don't research the relationship we just live it. It ain't no job and contrary to popular belief we don't have to work at a marriage if you do you're wrong IMHO.







I may not like what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it.
Semper Jeep

 

Two senerios ...

#1) "Honey, can I buy that CJ-6, please?"
Response: "No."
I am unhappy /wwwthreads_images/icons/frown.gif.

#2) "Honey, I bought a CJ-6 today!"
Response: "Oh!"
I am happy and she enjoys seeing me happy and likewise /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif.

And the winner is ..... #2 !!!

That's my last post on this subject, it's gone too far off topic.
BUT, I can't wait to hear the responses ...

JAF
http://www.monsterslayer.com/jeep

 

Keith: I guess I got lucky - I found one that likes 4 wheeling quite a bit, and I prefer to have her along as my co-pilot and "rev limiter" /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

Jaffer: Ahhhh... the old "easier to get forgiveness than permission" tactic - definately a workable approach /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

 

InfantryYJ - you and her must be either imhuman or liars - since I have never heard of a couple that has never had an arguement /wwwthreads_images/icons/tongue.gif

Again, this is not about making decisions on their own, and there is no need for the "women's rights" speach /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

I was simply saying there is an inherent problem when a spouse make major deicsions without the consent of their partner. This is when someone does something knowing the other will not approve, and knowing it is not in best interest and the spirit of UNION they entered into.

If she made the purchase knowing you were ok with that - then I guess you don't fall under my statement, and you should not worry about it too much, should you? /wwwthreads_images/icons/tongue.gif

BTW, have I said enjoy the new Yukon yet? /wwwthreads_images/icons/wink.gif

 

Yes, you have said enjoy the Yukon and hopefully soon I will./wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif As for the arguing, it's true. Everyone I tell that to doesn't believe me. I believe we are very lucky to have found each other. We both enjoy many of the same things and spend mucho time together but yet have not had an arguement. Every now and then I will joke with her and ask her to give me something to argue about but it doesn't happen. I know at work I get alot of the argument stuff out of me. Blow off steam on the troops so you don't have to take your work home. opps,/wwwthreads_images/icons/shocked.gif can't say things like that, somebody might think I'm hazing the troops. Anyway, like you said communication is good but like I said you shouldn't have to "work" at a marriage, just live it. /wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif

I may not like what you say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it.
Semper Jeep

 

It took me a lot of pain to realize how good my wife actually is. I even devorced her. 2 years later, we remarried. We have one child and another on the way.

Marriage is about communication and comprimise. Love and committment are DECISIONS. The are not "feelings". That's where most of us get screwed up.

The last vehicle we bought for my wife? She wanted a new Suburban. I wanted something disposable. Like a Yugo (she's wrecked the Cherokee 4 times). We ended up buying my sister's super clean '93 Suburban for $8,500.00. Win / Win.

Money? Whatever both people agree to. To me, a vehicle puchase is really not a big deal. But, I'm not the norm. I've invested 100,000's of thousands in businesses and real-estate without much consult from my wife. And my wife never even flinched. She trusts me and knows that I will only do what's best for our family. Hell, she's the one who pumped me up to buy my CJ7.