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O/T - Gift of beer meeting GF's dad for first time

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knifeboy2

Discussion Starter · Nov 21, 2003

O/T - Gift of beer meeting GF\'s dad for first time

So thats the question. I've been datin this girl only about a month but will be meeting her folks tommorow (Friday) when I drop her off. I'm 21so I can easily buy booze, but she's not. So good idea or bad to bring him some of his favorite beer when I meet him tommorow night? I already know what he likes to drink but according to the Jeepchick he doesn't drink all that much, but likes Corona.

What do you think? I like the idea but I'm not a dad so I don't know how he'd like it.

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· #2 · Nov 21, 2003

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I'm 23, so take this for whats it's worth. Even thou you've been with her a month :

1) It's his first time meeting you, might not want to bring beer since it'll associate beer with you.

2) Since she's under 21 it really might not be a great sign

3) It's late november, I like corona, but it's it more of a summer beer?

That was my first thought, take it for what it's worth.

knifeboy2

Discussion Starter · #3 · Nov 21, 2003

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Those were some of my thoughts too, which is why I asked here. I figure I'll get a plethera of answers. One other thing is that I'm also the first real boyfriend she's ever had....if that has any significance here.

LEVE

· #4 · Nov 21, 2003

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1. Well I'm a dad of 5 daughters...
2. And if you dropped by with beer...
3. You'd not make it in the front door...
4. It won't make a good first impression...
5. Buy flowers for the Mrs....
6. Show a little class,
7. It's very, very hard to undo a bad first impression.
8. It may be his favorite beer in your hands,
9. But it's his favorite daughter,
10. You're asking him to trust you with...
11. Beer doesn't invite trust.

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86CJ7

· #5 · Nov 21, 2003

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Bring the beer to me, you can date my daughter. I think the important thing is how you treat his daughter.

Drinking beer does not make you a bad person. Some people can't handle drinking and therefore should not drink. The people who can handle drinking should not be stereotyped
and treated like bad people.

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webjeep

· #6 · Nov 21, 2003

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i am gonna second leve on this one, no beer, flowers for mom, dad wants to know who you are and what you are about, give him you (if he doesn't like you may as well get the a55 kicking over with on the first meeting). oh yeah, and good luck

-web

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86CJ7

· #7 · Nov 21, 2003

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Let me finish... I have to agree with the others here. Get to know him first before you break out the beer. Maybe he is a person that can't handle drinking.

Scenario - You drop off beer - you go out on a date - he gets drunk - you bring her home - he kicks your ass.

Bring the flowers on the first date, take care of Mom; let him offer the first beer. After that it is a great gift.

Rio_Grande

· #8 · Nov 21, 2003

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I like beer as well or better than the next guy, but If you were dating my daughter no matter how nice you were I would not like for you to bring me beer the first time I meet ya. But If you want to date my dog it would be a great Idea... Matter of fact, I prefer Guiness on tap... Bring me a keg.

2344

· #9 · Nov 21, 2003

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I agree with the rest,

If you want to bring him somthing, find out what else he likes: hobbies, etc...

when I met my wifes parents, they took us poor college students out to eat, I bought an appetizer for the table (weak I know).

Now that I have a good relationship with the in-laws, I bring some of my homebrew over to him somtimes, and somtimes he brings some of his over. We both enjoy stouts and porters, so it is a good match!

He even had a Jeep when he was younger, and he considered getting one for himself again when I bought mine, but he went with another very respectable vehicle: 1967 Harley Davidson FLH. Just like the one he had when he was in college!

Good luck, its always a nervous time meeting the parents, just remeber, DONT SPRAYPAINT A CATS TAIL WHITE and try to pass it of as theirs when you lost their real cat!! Nothing can be as bad as "Meet the Parents"

Phil

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knifeboy2

Discussion Starter · #10 · Nov 21, 2003

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It seemed like a good idea as I was driving past the licquor store....but maybe thats cause I wanted something for myself. Anywho.....there will be no beer in my hands when I meet the folks. Thanks ya'll.

CJ7Taz

· #11 · Nov 21, 2003

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I'd say don't bring anything. If you do you could be tagged as:

a. a suck-up
b. desperate
c. weird
d. all of the above.

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· #12 · Nov 21, 2003

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I think you should do it,,,,,,,,,,,,but drink about 10 before you go there,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and have your girlfriend take pictures so you can post the look on his face while your handing him the "gift".

Now that would be some good OT posting

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283

· #13 · Nov 21, 2003

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You're right. The beer sounded like a good idea, but it's really not. Also, don't pull into the driveway and blow the horn for her to come out either. No points will be awarded to you for either one.

Ken Linzmeyer

2450

· #14 · Nov 21, 2003

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I'm not a dad either, but i've met a few over the years...i also agree, beer later...mind your p's and q's, yes maams, no sirs, and all that jazz...a little courtesy and respect goes a long way (especially if mom is won over!)...remember, it's dad's job to look out for his daughter, and you're not likely to be best pals on the first meeting...

my wife's dad doesn't say very much most of the time, let alone to me...but every now and then he takes me downstairs to show off a new rifle, or asks me to go outside and help him with the woodpile or the truck, and everything is good...

just show them the respect they deserve as her parents, and it will all be fine...and remember, he had to go through this at one point too - so you've got at least one thing in common...

knifeboy2

Discussion Starter · #15 · Nov 21, 2003

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I'm not too worried about pleasing the folks. For those of you on the board who have met me ya'll know I'm a good guy and easy to get along with. I never honk the horn in the driveway and always open the doors for ladies. My mom even says I spoil her when we go places. So I shouldn't have a problem. I've done a little background info on what her dad likes to do by asking simple questions....and she probly didn't even notice. He's a deer hunter and I've worked a check station for four shotgun seasons so we'll have that to talk about.....and he used to own a muscle car and I can BS about them for a good 30 minutes minimum.

Thanks again for tips, and I'm sure it'll go well.

Dirt Dog

· #16 · Nov 21, 2003

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Nick......
As a father with a with a girl....
forget the beer
I drink but it means nothing when it comes to her
if you brought it to my doorstep, it wold only be used by me as a weapon on a first meeting
be yourself
if thats not good enough....
then she was not good enough
or...........the other way around.
Never suck up to the parents
If you are a good person, ...continue to be,....with her and them.
It will work out if it was meant to be.

Be truthfull, honest, and straightforward with her and her dad.
If it was supposed to be, he will thank you for it. (ie..........either you are a guy that will be good for his "little girl", or he will have to kill you.

)

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445

· #17 · Nov 21, 2003

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From my experiance show up nice and presentable (no carharts, get the grease out from under your finger nails, maybe comb your hait, that's presentable in my book, wash the jeep), be respectful and use your manners, maybe start some small talk, take their daughter out have a good time, come back if they are up talk to them a little and then take off. I Wouldn't bring them anything, that just sends the wrong message in my book. Maybe later on bring by a 6 pack if they are cool but i would wait a while and get to know them before you try that one.

BarrelRoll

elusive

· #18 · Nov 21, 2003

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the first time I met my wifes father (in 1990) I talked to him some, but I looked around his house more. I noticed he had lots of books and I noticed some sci-fi. The next time I went to the house I gave him a copy of Robert A. Heinlein's "Starship Troopers". It's a VERY good book (horrid movie). He was a single father and I get along better than I could have hoped.. It's easy to see why I married his daughter
We didn't drink together till about 5 years after we met, though we really enjoy a few beers while shooting the breeze out fishing.
Just be polite.think before you speak. don't say too much

2887

· #19 · Nov 21, 2003

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Umm, is their something not "presentable" about carharts and grease under your fingernails?? I realize I don't live in suburbia down there with you all, but a guy (or gal, I dig chicks wearing carharts....) can walk into any store, business, home, whatever in just that type of clothing and be totally accepted. Ive even been to a wedding where the bride and groom wear wearing x-tra tuffs. (them being rubber boots for those of you that don't know) I surely hope that this doesn't make Alaskans a less presentable person...

It kinda similar to lots of the filthy stinky rich people in this town, they drive old beat up crummy trucks, yet they have enough money to walk in a pay cash for a brand new one. Doesn't make them any less of a presnetable person though.

Don't be knocking carharts!! Their a way of life up here! Along with the hickory shirt and the grundens....

jdoggmoney

· #20 · Nov 21, 2003

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If you take flowers to the Mrs. don't forget your date. Take a little somethin for her too, maybe a nice red rose waiting for her in the Jeep when you leave to go out.

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