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Oops. Hope I didn't start any bad feelings. Don't be too quick to judge her. women get that way sometimes. Don't be too quick to pop that question either. Wait a couple of years. If it is meant to be it will last. If not... Well it is easier to justify buying parts when you are single. lol

NORM

 

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It sounds easy for me to say "don't sweat it" but seriously don't sweat it. At least don't let it control everything in your life around you. The last thing you want to do is get into a marriage and then look back in 6 months and say "what the hell did I do that for?" Trust me.

 

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Too quick to judge her was too late. Today when she went to work it was called off. I guess its off to my parents... I'm sure they would be glad to have me back for a little while. They ask me to move in every time I go over there. The only thing I'm dreading is the "I told you so" from my dad. Unfortunately it will look to him like I just cant handle living on my own when in fact I love living on my own. I just cant stay somewhere I just got kicked out of.

 

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Some girls are amazing..they really are..money buys them happiness...and no money = no relationship (not saying this is how your girl is) but it seems that many girls are like that...it's a horrible thing for us guys that don't make a lot of money...but I'm in a similar situation. (sort of) I've been on my own going on 3 years, and now since I got laid off, I've had to sell all my [censored] while i look for a job....it's crazy....never thought i'd have to move back in with my parents, but it's very possible i'll have to do that in the next couple weeks....not the end of the world though...eventually, the jobs will come, and the money will follow, and the people that doubted us will realize what they lost.
-Aaron

 

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I would venture to say that it was way more then anything us here might have said or done. It sounds like she had several issues that she probably hasn't even told you about.
Give yourself some time to get over the hurt and you'll see that whatever was wrong couldn't have been fixed.
Sorry that you're going through this. Good luck.

 

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Sorry to hear this. It will get better it always does. Someday you wount even feel any of the pain you feel now. Good luck! SCRAm

 

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If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be. If it doesn't seek it out and destroy it. LOL. Sorry , just kidding, but seriously, it sounds like it wasn't meant to be, wich is O.K. cause now if your smart you'll go out and live it up. If you run into her or associates of hers at like it didn't matter at all, even if it is ripping your insides apart. It will drive her nuts to think that your just as happy or happier without her, and you never know she may come back around. Just remember, as corny as it sounds, TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. Some just take longer than others and you need to occupy your self in the meantime. I found Miss right when I wasn't looking as I am sure many here who are married probably did. Peace brother jeeper.

 

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Um, from the married guys, WHY would you waste money on an expensive dinner when it might be buying you Ramen Noodles till you go back to work? Most women would realize that... Also, you, as a man, are going to have 6-7 career jobs during your life (not counting high school or college jobs to get by). When you change, it will be rough. These guys are right in that you don't want to be ten years down the road and have a woman take the kids and go because your company can't hadle it's money and lays everyone off. You just got lucky and got the For Better For Worse thing out of the way now...
Personally, we've been in some bad straights, but I can't imagine EVER getting married again. I look at what the people around me at work seem to want, and it doesn't make sense. Be glad you're head's on straight. I know it doesn't help much right now. Sorry...

 

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Thanx guys. I'm moving my stuff out this weekend. My mom was all happy that I was coming back. I dont think my dad knows yet but he will soon. When I moved out origionally I had heard that he would sit in my room and just cry for hours. Thats all he did when he got home is what my mom had told me. I left home becuase of a fight with them and they told me to get out. So far I think I'm taking it pretty well. I haven't shed a single tear yet. That's rather rare for me in these situations. I guess I was just ready for it. Thanx again for the support. I knew you guys would be there for me. You're the only ones I can drop a line at 3 in the morning and won't get mad.
-Jesse-

 

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We all say things at times we don't mean. But those who love you (parents, family, and true friends) will always be there no matter what.
Women are stange and funny people. I've been married for 13 years and I still can't figure them out. I know not everyone of them is about money but it seems like thats the bottom line. I've been there bro, with many women. The right one will eventually come along, just don't try to rush it.
In the mean time, hang out with your parents. Don't mean to paint a grim picture dude, but no one lives forever. Don't be wishing you had done things with them after they're gone. And while you're hanging out at home, try to save some scratch to buy yourself a house. Maybe by then you will have found mrs. right.
Sorry for showing so much of my soft side but heck we all have feelings.
Good luck.
Now let's talk shop!!

 

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Listen to us guys...we are starting to sound like a bunch of emotional women....truth is, it's nice to see that we are man enough to admit that we too have feelings.

Trackball...don't let it get you down. To be honest, I doubt if it was the job or money issue. We all (male, femal) go through it. You meet a person and you think..hey, this could be the one...but after you live with them awhile, the newness wears off and you loose interest. In my personal opinion, if you have to work at making a relationship work, the it's not going to work.

Take me..got divorced after 20 years of marriage. About the same time I met a lady 16 years younger than me. Fell in love on day one (both of us) but it took about 13 days for us to admit it to each other. We have been married almost 2 years now...she is pregnant and due in July...about the hardest thing in our marriage is finding time together. We have never had a fight or got angry at each other. I enjoy going home. She is young, good looking, educated, intelligent...and knows how to use power tools.

When you least expect it, it happens. Don't make the mistake of trying to convince yourself that a person is the right one. If they are, you will know...belive me, you will know.

One side note...just in case she needs time to screw her head on straight...don't do anything you will regret. Be a gentleman when you move your stuff out. If she makes a big issue or scene, then you know that it was for the best anyway.

 

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By the way..i was thinking...do any of you guys have a name(s) for your jeep(s)? Do you call it a he or she? Or just jeep?

 

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We all call mine rockcrawler cause of my sticker in the window. We call my daily driver Xj Pebbles. SCRAm

 

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Mine is called Jee-pity jeep. Don't know why, my auto shop teacher gave it that name because i had it in there everyweek upgrading something. Maybe he though something was wrong with it and added pity? Don't know. hmmm... 112k miles still going strong. Only major problem was water pump seal.

This is the best board in general out there from what i've seen. The flames are low and most guys solve thier problems from talking in here, even if the problem is not with the jeep. Or feel better after talking in here.

 

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Scram did you say WE. OHH no you are hooked again. This one mught be good. I just broke up with my Italian sweetie, NO I just reffer to her has dumb Bit%h #4. HAhAhaaHhaha
I swear all women are pshyco.. it is only how much can you deal with and tolerate. Hang in there Trackball it all comes around sooner or later. When you find the one she will support everything you do .

 

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My wife and I are 180* out from each other. We can't agree on sh*t, but we RARELY ever fight over anything. If you can't compliment, then contrast!

 

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I agree with you on that!!

 

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They say oppisites attract. If you didn't have differences you'd get awful bored.