I am in the same boat as you on the 4.0 head. I took it to a couple shops and one wouldn't touch it because the triangles were too close and one didn't have the equipment to weld on cast iron. I think after asking around I am going to give it a shot at not welding or JB welding anything and see how it goes. As far as which gasket to use, I have heard some people have used either one. Let me know if you find anything out about the gasket or anything else that might help us both out. I also found a used 93 wrangler head in a junkyard and just got it back from the machine shop, he did a valve job and checked it out for me. He's never heard of the 4.0 conversion so of course he thought I was nuts for wanting to weld up the H2O ports. Anyway, let me know how it goes and I'll let you know if I run into anything. Joel