Go to Ebay http://www.ebaymotors.com
. There are usually a couple dozen CJ's listed in various states of lift. Tire size is just as important as lift, since each 2" increase in tire size makes the jeep sit 1" higher.
We went through the same thing, wife didn't want "too tall". This condition is known as monstertruckphobia [img]/wwwthreads_images/icons/smile.gif[/img]. Looked at lots of pics. It's hard to judge from pics. Some stock jeeps look tall, some lifted jeeps look small.
One day we were out and happened to see a stock TJ next to a moderately lifted CJ with 32-33" tires. Wife immediately agreed larger tires and a good lift are a must.
2.5"-3" lift is a good size for a daily driver -- not too tall but still giving you room for decent tires. 2-1/2" springs and 1/2" shackles give a respectable 3" total. Definately do-able for under $700.
I wanted to keep 35" tires an option someday, so ended up with 4" BDS springs, 1/2" shackle, and the Daystar 1" body mounts. That way I can run 33's now, then in the future (after axles) trim fenders to fit 35's.
Jack the jeep up a couple inches on one side and let the wife see if it's "too tall". If she thinks it is, order the springs anyway and find a doctor in your area that treats monstertruckphobia.
Rick -- 80s CJ7, under construction since June