I off-roaded for over 22 years. My philosophy is that I NEVER "expect" anything in return for my good deeds. I've helped many many people, both with my labor, tools, and parts out of my own inventory. I have had people offer me money, and I always say the same thing... "thank you, but I need a deposit in my Karma bank! Then I tell them, please do the same thing for some else in need of help. And as hard as they insist to pay me, I still refuse nicely but very passionately. Strangely, when I'm on the other end of the help stick, I naturally insist that I'm allowed to pay them. If they refuse and they are genuine, it makes me feel good for them.
It is amazing how cheap and chinchy some people can be. I think some people just expect a hand out or free-bee on the trail. I tend to be careful who I help. When I've wheeled with guys that I know from experience are always looking for a hand-out on the trail, I just keep my distance. With the guys I know their principles and have helped and shared their tools, welders, and such, I always look for ways to help them back. Once a close friend built me rear bumper for my truck, he would NOT take nickel for his 3 hours work and materials. At one of the 4-wheel drive events I won a big Hi-Lift Jack in a raffle, and I couldn't wait to give it to him for his Jeep.
I've walked into the shop at my local Toyota dealer looking for some serious technical help for my Toy truck. A mechanic stopped working on a vehicle and spent about 10 minutes with me. Took me over to his library and pulled out the manual and showed me what he talking about. He probably saved me several hundred dollars and didn't realize it. I think I blew him away when I pulled out a $20.00 bill and said "Thank you very much for your time, I want to buy you lunch"!! He refused it, but I insisted and put it back in his hand and I walked away. I felt good.
Once I was at a stop light at lunch time traffic with a big Ford duelie truck beside me. He was cranking the engine, obviously stuck. I rolled down my window and yelled "can I pull you over to the side of road"? He said "Hell yes". I grabbed my snatch strap and pulled in front of him, right in the middle of intersection... cars whiz'n by. He was suprised I hooked up the strap to his front hook and on my rear hook before he could barely get out of his truck. I pulled him around the corner and off to the side. I think he was a little surprised how quickly I yanked his big ass truck around. I got out and he said "Do you know the auto shop around corner?... I said "yeah, I've worked down the street for 6 years".. before he could ask me, I said "Would you like me to pull you there?".. he said "Hell yes". The shop was only another 500 yards away. I was removing my strap when he handed me a $20.00 and said "man, thank you very much"... I said "I can't take your money... besides, that would really hurt my little Toyota's feelings!" He laughed and we shook hands. I felt good.
Hell, there's a bunch of these experiences I can remember, some not as good.
Remember, if it weren't all those bad people, us really nice people wouldn't go to heaven!!